The arrival of a new baby is an exciting time for everyone in the family, everyone instantly wants to know how much the baby weighs, how long they are, who do they look like, do they have hair and this is all shared with joy by the new parents. Once home the visitors are coming and going with a quick "Hi, how are you?" and a response from the new mom of "good" as all of the other questions start rolling in. How much is the baby sleeping, does he/she cry a lot, how often are you feeding the baby? Honestly, after awhile the responses start to become automatic and almost robotic.
A few weeks back I ran into a woman at the doctors office that I have only seen a few times but the last time she seen me I must have been pregnant because she remembered I just had a baby. I am now almost 9 months postpartum so we chatted a little about my daughter and then she looked and me and genuinely asked "How are you doing?". She wanted to know how I was adjusting to motherhood. As I sat there thinking of my response I couldn't help but feel so surprised, happy and a little emotional (damn hormones) that she asked me this and she asked me this with true sincerity.
We talked for awhile about how I was and I thanked her for asking me. I told her how I felt like a lot of woman are not asked that question enough in postpartum and she agreed. Although her children are now in their teens she remembers the way she felt as a new mom and wished that someone had asked her that simple question. How are you?
If you know of a new mom don't forget to ask her how she is. Even if she is months postpartum like I am this question could make all the difference.